I think my spouse is cheating on me…what can I do about it?

Many people will hire a private investigator to find evidence of adultery in their marriage. That can be a costly endeavor, and it is certainly possible that even the best private investigator may not be able to get you evidence of cheating. What else can you do? If you have access to joint accounts like bank accounts and credit card accounts, you may find evidence of strange expenses in those statements. If the family cell phone bill shows a large number of phone calls to a number you don’t recognize at odd times, that may also be good evidence. Of course, witnesses are usually a good source of evidence.

What you cannot do is check your spouse’s email account, cell phone voicemail, or access any password protected online accounts on which you are not a joint holder of the account, or if you do not have your spouse’s permission to access the account at that time. That is a violation of federal wiretapping laws and you can be prosecuted for that offense. Further, any evidence you may find by doing so cannot be used in court or by your attorney in negotiations, and may even subject your attorney to criminal liability if they view illegally obtained evidence.